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What Exactly is Relationship Coaching?
Since the divorce of my parents at an early age of 10, I have developed a passion to discover how to support individuals, families and marriages. I later completed a graduate degree in Rehabilitation Counseling with a minor in Marriage and Family Therapy. I have spent the last 35+ years studying relationships/marriages and have taken additional course work in marriage/relationship coaching and the PREP relationship enhancement program. I have discovered, that my beliefs about how to support individuals, families, and marriages in developing strong and healthy relationship, fit well with the philosophy and practice of relationship coaching. Let me help support you in Making the Rest of Your Life the Best of your Life.
Relationship Coaching is the application of coaching to personal and business relationships. While many become motivated to seek help when struggling with their relationships, coaching and relationship coaching are positive, results-oriented professions. Relationship coaching is a professional client-focused service. Relationship coaching is a life coaching specialization that helps people find greater fulfillment in their personal relationships. A relationship coach can help you set relationship goals, understand your current partnership, thrive inside your marriage, grieve a lost loved-one, or take your long-term romance to the next level.
Coaching helps functional people achieve their personal and relationship goals. The individual / couple / family is assumed to be healthy, powerful, and able to achieve relationshiop goals with effective support, information, and guidance. Coaching is not a substitute or replacement for therapy provided by a licensed clinician trained to treat mental, emotional, and psychological disorders. While relationship coaches might be experts in relationships, the art and science of coaching is to facilitate success for the client without providing advice or professional options.
The role of the coach is to faciliate the client's learning to find his/her own answers. Coaches may need to strategize or brainstorm with clients or offer ideas, but these ideas are not proposed as solutions. These ideas are offered as possibilities.
The role of the coach is that of a companion along the way. There is no assumption of expertise or leadership, or superiority in any way. It is more like a wise companion on a journey, who does not argue about the way, does not criticize any mistakes, encourages the wary, witnesses the struggles, offers a presence that is nourishing and warm. The Coach is the client's equal. There is no superior knowedge or treatment plan; the coach is just present for the client's/couple''/parent's arcitulated agenda.
Coaching Singles for Relationship Success:
A relationship is not just something that happens to us, our thoughts and actions play a decisive role in how we experience relationships and how we participate them.
A single person is seeking his own happiness, but for it to culminate in a lasting commitment, if must result in a selfless love of another. Dating is a pursuit of self-happiness. Somehow, this selfish act as to transform into a comparatively selfless realtionship, in which each seeks the happiness of the other.
Coaching Couples for Relationship Success:
Coaches can facilitate transformative conversations that chip away at the "ice" of our client's long-held beliefs and assumptions. When couples come to coaching, they are coming with an expected outcome. 1) They might expect the relationship to dissolve as amicably as possible, 2) They may be uncertain about the relationship and want help deciding whether the relationship can be salvaged, 3) They may be hoping to rejuvenate the relationship and trying to work out how, and 4) They may already have a strong relationship but are seeing assistance in making it better.
The initial task for the Coach begins with ascertaining the client's goals for the relationship and exploring ways to attaining their goals. Coaching is a paradigm of possibility in which the coach is a collaborator with the couple in designing and creating the life the couple wants to achieve.
Coaching Parents for Relationship Success:
Coaching provides support for functioning families when the parents are honest enough to realize that what they are doing is not quite enough, their approach may not always be working, and it is time to look at alternative approaches.
Coaching is also for parents who think that parenting is too important to settle for second best and who are willing to see how working with a Coach can help develop them as people and as parents, and so become better communicators and role models for their children.
There is no one way to parent. The role of the Coach is not to tell parents what is wrong with their parenting or to tell them what they need to change. The Coach helps parents to develop different ideas and perspectives by providing a space to reflect and examine their parenting practices.
The Coach can help by 1) Identifying and clarifying goals and values as a parent, 2) Exploring new approaches to and perspectives on, the parenting tasks, and 3) Determine what action(s) might be required to achieve them.
Coaching can support parents in feeling more confident and competent. The Coach can help the parents gain clarity about their unique circumstances and then adapt their strategies and approaches to suite the specific needs of the child and situation. Using the relationship coaching model, the emphasis is on supporting parents in gaining a new perspective on their interactions with their child/children.